To enjoy a great date is not a problem, the night goes by perfectly and smoothly when you are both enjoying each other’s company. The date ends normally. But how to get out of a date, when you feel terrible and bored? Knowing in the middle of the date that you have made the wrong move of going out with him (or her) and you think it’s too late because the main dish was ordered and your soup is served. Would it not be rude if you gather yourself, smile and tell quickly that you think it is best that you go and it has been nice meeting him (her)? Stand up and shake his hand and exit smoothly. It may be a little surprising for him but at least you have chosen to be bold enough to tell the truth before he endures a soundless dinner with you and pays for the steak you never have eaten than excusing yourself to the powder room and never comes back. Now who’s rude? But then again, maybe it would not hurt you if you can try to be sensitive enough to let the date come to an end normally, like it usually does, (you accepted the date anyhow—remember?) and just tell it to him that it was a nice night BUT the chemistry is just not there and it would be best to rather stay as friends. It can be heartbreaking for him (he won’t admit it anyhow), so it is best to make it all clear that there won’t be a second date.

Second dates happen when both gets the feel of the chemistry between them. The what you call ‘spark’ is present, and you can barely wipe off that grin on your face that almost locked your jaw all night. It is when you think there are fireworks around you, and the melody of the nightingale is floating in air of the busy city. It is when he asked you if you had a great time and when he sweetly tells you how happy he is to have dinner with you. That is an official hint of a second date coming.

Do take notes and try to do it right on first dates. Never fall on the negatives to make your first dates turn into an exciting second. I know, I won’t.

~Shaz